Second Date: Top 4 Lesbian Dating Tips & Dating Advice to Clinch Your 2nd Lesbian Date Successfully

Second Date: Top 4 Lesbian Dating Tips & Dating Advice to Clinch Your 2nd Lesbian Date Successfully

No matter what anybody says, Lesbian Dating can be a scary prospect – meeting up with an attractive lady stranger and overcoming awkwardness to try and have a good time, and determine if you have enough in common to want to see each other again.

Sometimes it can feel like the most natural thing in the world; and other times, can be yet another opportunity to over-analyze every last conversational gambit to death.

Queer Lesbian Women and Lesbian Ladies share their experiences of reeling in that prized Second Lesbian Meet Up, and their successful strategies.

Second Date Success in Lesbian Dating

Here’s exactly how you can clinch your Second Lesbian Date.

Real Lesbian Women and Lesbian Girls share their stories and strategies for a successful follow-up to that all-important First Lesbian Date … Enjoy!

1. Keep them wanting more – (#1 Top Second Date Success Tip)

Sometimes it’s not about showing all your super powers on that first date in an attempt to impress – it can be a sexier slowburner to pace yourself and keep the other person intrigued.

Vanessa agrees: “After the first date I have to be left with that palpable feeling of wanting to know more – being very intrigued and attracted to the person even after spending the whole evening with them is a very good sign.”

And even withholding a teeny bit on the physical front can surprisingly help things along by creating a sense of suspense.

Carrie recalls her previous experiences: “I’ll tell you what didn’t matter a ton: whether we kissed at the end of the first date or not.

Once I stopped building up “The Kiss” so much, I found that what actually mattered was whether I felt like I had something else to ask them about.

If I wanted to keep the conversation going, that meant a second meetup was worth it.”

2. Engagement is real – (#2 Key Second Date Success Advice)

Engagement throughout your date can be expressed and experienced in many different ways, kiss or no kiss. And, it’s not really something that can be faked.

Conversation, curiosity, and just plain attraction wins every time.

Reneice talks about what it is for her: “The thing that will make or break the chance for a second date with me is how engaged the person is during the first date.

If they’re constantly on the phone, not making attempts to ask questions or keep conversation going, or just depending on me to make the date fun and engaging somehow there won’t be a follow up.”

Catherine recalls a great first date: “We grabbed lunch for our first date, and ended up talking for four hours.

We covered politics, our favorite Broadway musicals, books, music, among other things, and I found her articulate, quirky, and really fun to be with.

A second date was a no-brainer.”

3. Be open to new experiences

Keep an open mind and heart and you’ll often find yourself surprised.

Sarah says: “Honestly, I have an easy time getting along with most people, and I’m usually looking for the positives, not the negatives, on a date.

I’ll try anything twice, or three times even. And I find that chemistry and flirtations and sexual energy can grow, even if it’s not evident right away, so I am usually down to go on a second date no matter what.”

Erin agrees with not being bogged down with making things go a certain way: “Things never go the way I expect them to, so the best way forward is simply not to expect anything.

Once I allowed myself to go with the flow, everything seems like a pleasant, random surprises, which makes for a great date.”

4. Don’t look for perfection

A fixed idea of what a perfect first date should look and feel like is the perfect enemy of a good date.

Let go of your notion of how it should be and allow the date to follow its natural course – you’ll be surprised at how things can work out.

Heather recalls what started out as a disastrous first date: “One time at the end of a boring dinner, the girl left me a haiku on a napkin that said: A very bad date. You are so nice, I panicked. Let’s try one more time?

Although it didn’t work out, even on that second time, she was really fun and I thought the haiku was inspired.”

Shannon describes a similar experience that ended well: “I went on a date in my non-native language last week and she and I were both pleasantly surprised that it wasn’t a disaster!

Neither of us are fluent in each other’s first languages but I ended up being the one to speak in French because it seemed easier and she was hesitant to speak in English.

Obviously the whole first-date-awkwardness was only enhanced by the language barrier and it was harder to keep a conversation going.

But somehow it felt more relaxed as well, because we both went into it admitting we were nervous, and thought it was kind of funny when we couldn’t think of the right words to say.”

Concluding Lesbian Dating Insights on Clinching Your Second Date

Similarly for Lesbian Dating, many Lesbian Women and Lesbian Girls will decide early on during a First Date, whether or not they would like to have a Second Date.

First impressions are crucial. But don’t get yourself too caught up on making such a good impression, that you forget entirely about the other person.

Instead, give yourself the space to relax and have a good time, and hopefully the rest will follow.

Bear close to heart the above 4 Dating Tips and Dating Advice for your Lesbian Dates, and you’re on your way to success in clinching that most desired Second Lesbian Date with your ideal Lesbian Lady.